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Can Y'all be Pure Again after Sex?

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  Carrie Dedrick What topic related to Christianity, faith, and the Bible is trending online and in social media today?

• 2016 April 01

In the beginning stages of a relationship, everything seems perfect. Merely catching a glimpse of the human being or woman of your affections brings a smiling to your confront and fluttery lilliputian butterflies to your stomach. Holding hands sends a tingle upwards your arm. Everything is new. Everything is heady. And it is far likewise like shooting fish in a barrel to let your baby-sit downwards.

The is exactly what happened to a fellow who wrote in to the Desiring God series Inquire Pastor John.

The anonymous man wrote, "I slept with my girlfriend ii days ago, and now we are both left hurt and feeling muddy, cheap, ashamed — nosotros cannot fifty-fifty look at ourselves. We are both built-in-over again believers in Christ, merely we got lured into temptation. Is at that place whatever promise that we might go pure once again and be healed from our sin? I know the blood of Jesus covers every sin. But how tin we get back our human relationship's purity once again?"

Pastor John Piper responded to the letter, explaining what's next subsequently committing this sin.

ane. Resolve to abstain. The couple had sex in one case, but they should not repeat the pattern. Piper says 1 Corinthians 6:18 has a direct command: "Flee from sexual immorality."

He writes, "Chaste, holy singleness — has its special rewards for faithfulness… Singleness and chastity are a very high calling in God'south mind. That is the first thing."

two. Enquire God for forgiveness. At that place is no sin that is so offensive to God that it cannot exist forgiven. Jesus paid the price of all sins through his death on the cantankerous. Come to God in repentance and y'all will exist washed make clean.

"Truly, I say to you, all sins will be forgiven the children of man, and whatever blasphemies they utter" (Mark 3:28).

3. Forgive your partner. Practice non blame your partner for the actions taken. And accept their forgiveness as well. Piper warns that this is not a elementary chore. "Common forgiveness is no uncomplicated matter because for forgiveness to be full and consummate and real, there needs to be confession and repentance that is accurate and lasting. Both need to own completely their own fault in this and both, indeed, are at fault in this," he writes.

"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving i another, as God in Christ forgave yous" (Ephesians 4:32).

four. Pursue forbearance. This goes hand in manus with forgiveness. Forbearance is patiently indelible your partner, instead of casting arraign. Scripture commands that equally followers of Christ nosotros must have "compassionate hearts… forbearing one another" (Colossians 3:12-13).

Piper writes, "So you can either walk away from that human relationship — that has destroyed a million marriages — or you tin forebear."

v. Rebuild trust. Breaking a vow to God and each other has shattered the trust that was once between you. And unlike forgiveness, it will have to exist earned, not given.

Piper advises patience while trust is slowly rebuilt. "When we have broken trust, which they have, both of them, it will have time to found confidence in our character. And so be patient with ane some other and be honest about this," he says.

6. Find hope in the gospel. Walking this road will be painful, but Scripture tells u.s. that healing is possible.

"...you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the proper noun of the Lord Jesus Christ and past the Spirit of God." (i Corinthians vi:11).

Crosswalk.com contributing author Eric Giesow offers further communication on pursuing a pure lifestyle while dating. He writes, "Don't be agape to call a "timeout." What I mean by "timeout" is that one time a boundary has been crossed, you must verbalize it correct abroad to i another and call it what it was: wrong and dishonoring… Afterwards a mess upward, silence is the greatest enemy to future victory."

Don't be silent. Take your concerns to your partner and to God.

"God wants you to alive a pure life. Continue yourselves from sexual promiscuity. Learn to appreciate and give nobility to your body, non abusing it, every bit is then common among those who know zip of God." (1 Thessalonians iv:3-five MSG)

Carrie Dedrick is the Family Editor for Crosswalk.com.

Publication appointment: April 1, 2016

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